In our interactions with people, there will always be differences of opinion, different ways of doing things, different perceptions, and different ideas or belief systems. Sometimes you may be on the same page with someone, and other times you and that person may be in two totally separate chapters, thus causing imbalance or a clashed way of doing things. It could be the smallest thing. For instance, the disapproval of where someone placed something, to that person forgetting to take care of a task, to someone putting too much seasoning in the dinner they cooked, to someone losing or misplacing something. Yes, people freak out over these things, but is it really worth it?
Feeling annoyed and frustrated over the many mishaps that take place in our everyday existence is absolutely normal, but reacting to it, sometimes hurting others who care about you in the process doesn’t have to be. At times, that negative energy festers and mutates, thus giving way for it to blow out of proportion into something ugly and painful. This is why we must learn to let go of the little mishaps, because they are always going to happen, regardless, and most of the time they are unintentional and without malice.
Many engage in the art of complaining. Everything little instance bothers them. It seems to them that nothing turns out right. Usually, when someone carries this mindset, there is a part of them that is entrenched in being defensive. And when the smallest happenstance occurs that displeases them, the opportunity to react in conflict is triggered. This creates arguments, and sometimes emotional and physical altercations, or most commonly the seemingly disrespect of the silent treatment.
But was it really worth it? Was it worth a day or more of not speaking to one another or experiencing feelings of hurt and detachment, all stemming from a conflict that had to do with putting too much sugar in one’s coffee or forgetting to wash the ring from around the bathtub? Believe it or not, people are having major disagreements about these things, when the conversation should really be about the solution and not the pointing of the finger in blame.
Should a goodbye kiss in the morning from a spouse go undone? Should a birthday card to a friend remain not purchased? Should a holiday go uncelebrated? Should two people go on in silence, stuck in their pride of not apologizing to one another over these small mistakes and misunderstandings? I think not.
While human emotions of anger and dissatisfaction have its place in regards to some instances, overall one should consider not applying them to the smallest mishaps, especially when someone was being thoughtful or trying to accommodate with the sincerest of intentions. For the most part, we should plant ourselves in the foundation of forgiveness and lightheartedness, and you will find that letting go of the little mishaps will be easier. Before you know it, you will be free of those negative emotions. You’ll not only be greatly affected by your own happiness, but you’ll also create that positive atmosphere for others around you as you let go of the littlest mishaps with an assuring and absolving smile.
Chuma Whahid Rasul is also known as Christopher Hicks, author of two books of poetry and CEO of CHUMA SPIRIT BOOKS, LLC. He is also Editor-in-Chief of his own blog, CHUMA SPIRIT Magazine. Check him out.