According to his mother, Larry Bland was so hooked on what she called "the party line", that she moved out because of it. The chat-room she referred to is none other than Adam4Adam, a site we are all too familiar with. Larry's mother said he was on it day and night, with frequent strange visitors at all hours of the night. Does this sound like anyone you know? In Cook County, where Larry Bland lived on S. Wood St., the inmates in Cook county jail sleep in 8-hour shifts. Overpopulation is a problem. Crime is a problem. Could that be why the police still haven't apprehended a suspect in the Nov. 17th murder of Larry Bland? Did the fact that he was gay dampen their eagerness to do their job?
Cyber-sex addiction aside for a moment, we can not sit by while the cops treat our family as if our murders are not important. If Larry met his killer online, then the cyber bread-crumbs are there to follow. It's been over two weeks and they still don't have a suspect. Internet reporting is sparse and details are sketchy -- he was shot multiple times or once in the head at or near-by his home in the wee-hours of the morning. Was it a hook-up gone wrong or just a random act in the street? I don't know. But his mother believes it had something to do with his cyber obsession.
Larry Bland is clearly a big boy. He no doubt saw all the ads that proclaimed in no uncertain terms, "no fats no fems". Still, Larry perused the hook up sites looking for love (or its reasonable facimile) for hours on end. He may be dead because of it. Was he the lonely fat boy ostracized by the hetero world for being gay and his own black gay brethren because of his size? Did it make him desperate and reckless? I don't know, but I have my suspicions.
As exciting as clicking our way through sexy profiles of abs, muscles, ass and dick and possibilities they all hold, is it time we shouted from the rooftops the dangers that go along with this thrill?
Is it time we found other ways to amuse ourselves? I used to rant to never EVER invite some stranger to your home just because he had a cute profile or sexy lips, always meet in a public place. But with the death of Michael Sandy and now possibly Larry Bland, maybe the rules have to be changed more drastically. And have we already forgotten the still unsolved murder of Rashawn Brazell? Are we that hooked, where we're gambling our lives for love?
I think we are, and it's time for an intervention. Do you know someone whose hooked? I know several. I recently embarassed a friend about it because he left our Thanksgiving dinner to meet a hook-up. He tried to claim they knew each other for a long time, but I called him on the lie. He left anyway. I haven't seen him since. We can't stop grown-ass men from being reckless if they want to, but we can try. That's all we can do.
Point, click, cruise, is more like Russian Roulette. It's time we made sure everyone knows that, and while we're at it, let the Chicago police department know that our murders will not be swept under the rug.
Chicago, IL. -- A mother is pleading for answers after her son was killed two weeks ago. She believes a sexual encounter that started in an online chat room may have cost him his life. (view video report)