SGL Café

Is Pro-White Anti-Black?

There's been a dust up over this post on ka-os Theory -- You Only Count if you're Black, which bristled at this post on Darian Aaron's blog praising Black Gay Bloggers, suggesting reverse exclusion. The ensuing dialogue ripped old battle scars like an East Coast/West Coast rap beef that won't die when Darian responded using the method all beefs employ these days -- Facebook. As one responder on Darian's facebook page asserted, "Pro-black isn't anti-white". Okay. But does the opposite hold true? Does America's racial history preclude the mainstream rise of Pro-White groups without them being nefarious like the one above? Great questions; tough answers though. In such cases, I try to look at things from the other guys perspective. If you haven't checked out the link above and the connecting links do so now and then come back. I must admit there are valid points all around. Ka-os was on point with his observation, though, possibly, he was unaware that he was stepping into a minefield littered with the corpses of many who just wanted to do the right thing. Fair is fair, correct? Using that simple formula I butted heads with Jasmyne Cannick over the right of Shirley Q. Liquor (below) to exist in a world where the Wayans brothers make millions by putting on white-face and portraying 'White Chicks'. Naturally, I gathered a host of enemies who to this day still grumble at the mention of my name and use Charles Knipp's character as a retort for everything. **Oh, of course, somebody who defends Shirley Q would say that!!** Whatever. Fair is fair. And that will never change. Using that same formula, I've also decried the rise of Black Gay Prides (and added a few more to the list of those who don't like me). Now, I truly understand why we have needed them, and why, possibly, in certain areas of our nation we may still need them. But I think the ultimate goal for a rainbow flag waving community is to be all-inclusive -- like a resort. Isn't it? Branching off into individual prides will only lead to further division. Having said that, NYC should not have a 'regular' Pride and a Black Pride and a Latino Pride and an Asian Pride -- what's next, Special Pride, Little People Pride, Big-Boned People Pride, yada yada muthfukin' yada. With all the opposition against us, is it 'historically' wise to willingly divide ourselves? Wouldn't working with these entrenched organizations so that they live up to the dream and vision of the rainbow be much better? Tooting our horn is cool, Darian Aaron did nothing wrong in doing so. And yet, I agree with Ka-os wholeheartedly. See, there's that minefield, and why racial politics will always be so very complicated. So, is Pro White anti Black, and vice versa?

Walk like a man ...

From Eric Marcus NYC up & OUT. "As a young teen I studied men. How they talked. What they talked about. How they gestured. How they walked. And I studied them because I was determined to pass. No one likes to be teased and I saw what happened to the boys who were less than manly. There were limitations on how much I could close the gap between who I was by nature and how I wanted to be perceived. I was a little guy, not a natural athlete. I liked to read, didn’t want to chase girls (although I had plenty of friends who were girls), hated talking about sports scores. And at summer camp, I loved arts and crafts and did everything I could to avoid getting sent out to right field. But despite my limitations and decidedly un-manly range of interests I trained myself to tone down my gestures, tighten my wrists, cross my legs like a cowboy, and walk like a man...."

God's Best Friend

"...I mean, I have no desire to spend eternity worshipping anybody. If God is that lonely, he should get a dog."
A Life Not So Black & Gay

I laughed out loud when I read that. The blogger in question is going through a 40 day thing, and I'm kinda going through it with him. But I've always felt that the whole 'worship' thing was a bit much. Why would the creator of the endless universe even want insignificant specks of dust like us to worship him? And even more confusing, why would he need it? I get so tired of hearing people thank God and Jesus for the dumbest shit. Like a Grammy. So, he allows genocide and starvation on one side to the planet because he's too busy making sure 50 cent got his award? Are the faithful really that stupid? Or is God? Anyway, I don't think it can be said any better. But make sure its a dog -- cats don't give a shit about anybody but themselves. That would really send God into a vengeful tizzy. ~~

Conversations with Frank León Roberts ....

Frank León Roberts reports on the Atlantis Ball. Pictured here, Darryl Prodigy as The Prince of Healing.

Frank's blog is the most colorful and intellectual blog you'll ever come across. Today, I was dazzled with great photography (of beautiful men) for my eyes & a few good books concerning black/queer cultural studies for my mind--like the following:

He's got a beautiful mind and body ... plus, he's practically a Ball Scene guru.

Check out it. His blog is truly unique.

The Other Side of Me ...

(from the blog of Heartbreaker)
What you think becomes what you say, What you say becomes what you do, What you do today becomes tomorrow’s habit, Your habits are the foundation of your character, which determines your destiny.

"Destiny is not a matter of chance, it is a matter of choice. It is not a thing to be waited for, it is a thing to be achieved." - Jeremy Kitson

I've made a lot of bad choices in my short 21 years of life. Most of them have been in the past 21 months of my life. But as I get older I realize that life doesn't become any easier. We only become stronger, wiser, and hopefully learn from our past experiences. ~~~

Profound thinking from a twenty-one year old. Check out his blog, The Other Side of Me, and you'll get hooked on his beautiful soul and spirit ... just like I have. And as you can see, he ain't bad on the eyes either.